Hello, dear readers!
Today, I want to delve into a topic that many of us can relate to: imposter syndrome. As a coach, an important part of my role is to recognize patterns and share observations to help clients gain awareness about their situations.
Many of my clients who experience imposter syndrome develop coping mechanisms to manage the stress and anxiety of “waiting to be found out” and to actually avoid being found out. Often, they aren’t even aware of what they’re doing, and they’re likely unaware of how their ideas or assumptions about competence fuel their imposter feelings.
Imposter syndrome is most commonly associated with perfectionism, but that’s not always the case. In fact, there’s a direct connection between imposter syndrome and a person’s definition of competence.
This has led to the identification of five types of imposter syndrome, each describing the unrealistic and unsustainable ways people with imposter syndrome measure their competence.
By recognizing patterns and having real, valid context is crucial. Imposter syndrome is a multi-faceted, highly nuanced experience, and it’s important not to rely on social media trends for understanding or addressing it.
For example, if you are reluctant to apply for a big promotion or grow their business, it might seem like imposter syndrome. However, other factors could be at play. They might value their work/life balance, question their career choice, or feel overwhelmed by the potential isolation at higher levels of success. On the other hand, they might genuinely fear being exposed as not capable enough.
As a coach, my role is to help clients explore their context and thinking, and gain perspective on their individual patterns of behavior. Not all patterns point to imposter syndrome, but when they do, they come with significant costs and consequences. It’s about understanding the full picture and supporting clients in navigating their unique experiences.
Imposter syndrome can show up differently for each of us, and recognizing its various forms is the first step towards overcoming it. Let’s continue to explore these themes together and support each other in our journeys towards confidence, grace and self-acceptance.
With love and grace,
Michelle
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